Endings are one of the most universal human experiences, yet somehow they still catch us off guard. We know life moves in seasons… but when one comes to a close, it can feel like the ground shifts under our feet.
And the truth is: endings are hard.
Not because we’re weak, or dramatic, or “not coping”…
But because endings ask us to let go.
And letting go is one of the most tender things a human heart ever has to do.
Letting go of the dreams we once had
Every version of ourselves carries a dream, a hope, a picture of what our future might look like.
An ending often means releasing the version of you who believed in that dream.
It might be the woman who imagined her family looking a certain way.
The mother who pictured a home full of noise forever.
The friend who thought a relationship would last a lifetime.
The younger self who had no clue how much she’d grow, change, or outgrow.
Letting go of these versions of ourselves feels like a quiet grief… because in many ways, it is.
Endings in Motherhood – the ones we don’t see coming
There are phases of motherhood you don’t realise are “lasts” until they’re memories.
The last time they needed your hand crossing the road.
The last bedtime story.
The last school run.
The last time you were the centre of their world.
You don’t mark them.
You don’t prepare for them.
You simply wake up one day and realise that season has passed — and you’re standing in a new one.
The empty nest isn’t just about children leaving home.
It’s the shift in identity, the re-arranging of your purpose, the moment you catch yourself wondering:
Who am I now? What comes next?
Losses that aren’t talked about enough
Friendships that fade.
Roles that change.
Parts of you that no longer fit the life you’re living now.
These losses don’t always come with fanfare or funerals — but they still ache.
Grief comes in waves.
Just when you think you’ve “moved on,” another wave rises.
Not to drown you, but to help you process another layer.
Grief isn’t linear.
It’s a tide — and tides return.
The becoming of the new you
Here’s the part we often forget: every ending is also a beginning.
When something falls away, it creates space.
A space you may not have asked for, but one you will eventually fill with the next version of yourself.
You don’t become the new you through thinking, planning, or forcing.
You become her through doing.
Through living.
Through trying.
Through allowing.
Through moving forward, even when the path feels unfamiliar.
The journey really is the destination — not a stepping stone to some future perfection, but the place where you gather your strength, your wisdom, your courage.
Healing through acceptance
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting or pretending it didn’t matter.
Healing means allowing change to be part of your story.
It’s recognising that life isn’t about clinging to who you were, but gently evolving into who you’re becoming.
Acceptance isn’t passive.
It’s powerful.
It’s the moment you soften your grip and say:
I’ll carry the memories, but I won’t stay frozen in them.
Endings aren’t always bad
Some endings are painful.
Some are peaceful.
Some are long overdue.
Some are unexpected.
But endings are not failures.
They’re transitions.
They’re teachers.
They’re invitations to step into the next chapter — perhaps a chapter you couldn’t have imagined before.
And often, when you look back, you realise that an ending was actually an opening.
A doorway.
A beginning in disguise.
A space for your transition
If you are currently standing in the space between an ending and a beginning, please know you don’t have to carry the weight of that transition alone. Sometimes, the heart needs a safe place to land while the mind figures out the “what’s next.”
How I can support you through this season
- The Menopause MOT: A 90-minute deep dive to help you understand the physical and emotional shifts of this transition, giving you a clear roadmap for the path ahead.
- Holistic Healing & Reiki: For when words aren’t enough. These sessions offer a quiet space to release stored grief and settle your nervous system as you navigate change.
- The 1:1 Empowerment Program: A dedicated partnership to help you rediscover your identity and build the confidence to step into your next chapter.