After attending a networking group recently, I have felt compelled to write about this topic.
Let’s be real for a second… self-care often gets treated like the sprinkles on top of life. Cute, nice-to-have, but totally optional. But here’s the truth I learned the hard way: ignoring your wellbeing comes with a cost — and its way more expensive than you think. If you don’t listen to your body when it whispers it will start shouting.
Here’s a story – Once upon a time, you are “killing it” at work. On paper, your life looked shiny and successful. Behind the scenes? You are running on fumes. Anxious, restless, completely wiped out. Eventually, your body hit the brakes for you. You might end up spending months in bed, and over a year unable to work. Zero energy. Zero income. Zero joy. Honestly, it will be a wake-up call you will never forget.
That’s why I’m so passionate about this: self-care isn’t a luxury. It’s survival. And when we skip it, here’s what usually happens:
✨ We “unwind” with wine instead of actually relaxing.
✨ We shop to feel better instead of moving our bodies.
✨ We scroll for hours instead of processing our emotions.
✨ We snap at people we love because our own boundaries are frayed.
✨ We guzzle coffee because we refuse to give ourselves the rest we need.
That’s not care — that’s compensation. And it drains us more than it restores us.
So, let me ask you this: are you choosing habits that genuinely fill you up, or are you just patching over the cracks? Real self-care isn’t about bubble baths or spa days (though those are lovely). It’s about tending to your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health every day. It’s about making sure you stay whole — because burnout, illness, and resentment are a much higher price to pay.
Self-care is not the side dish. It’s the main course. And choosing it daily? That’s where your energy, joy, and resilience come from. It’s hard to take time for yourself when you have always done for others but if you don’t by the time you get to perimenopause you will feel it and wish you had done more earlier.
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